by Mary Segers

Stressor #9: Making Time for Yourself

How/Why It’s Stressful

We all NEED down time to recharge

I know everyone’s already heard this but it remains a core truth so I’ll just repeat it. Just as you would not expect your phone to go on forever without the battery being recharged you shouldn’t expect yourself (body, spirit, or mind) to either.

Recharging for me can be as simple as having a cup of coffee on the screenedin porch alone. I may go for a 3 mile walk and in that hour I can do a lot of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual recharging.

I can also recharge by slipping away to a coffee house with a friend for a few hours of coffee and talk. I’ve been recharged by taking a nice long bath.

And watching a sunset . . . oh my, that is an experience in itself.

I can’t THINK if I don’t get off by myself

I’ve always been the type that if I didn’t get that recharging I was a miserable person and made everyone around me miserable. I would get to feeling sick and anxious without it . . . including headaches. Eventually, I would get just downright vicious.

We’ll be much more pleasant to be around         

I use a Sonicare toothbrush and I love it. As I’m using it I don’t notice the charge going down until it starts beeping telling me it needs to be recharged.

When I use it the first time after a full charge I’m always amazed at the difference. It becomes much more powerful . . . noticeably so . . . than it was before I put it on the charger. Almost like new.

Many times I think of people . . . myself in particular . . . and realize how life mimics that process.

Making Time for Yourself Solutions

Get the kids and spouse to help with household tasks and give yourself a 30 minute breather

Take that time to do something you want to do. Take a walk, read a book, take a bath, or talk to a friend. You and your spouse could give each other a break.

Realize that it’s easier to plan one of these than to rid yourself of the guilt caused by blowing your fuse

Words . . . once spoken . . . can never be recalled. As I mentioned, I could get vicious when I needed a little time to myself. With 4 kids it didn’t take me long to figure out that no matter what I was going to recharge before I blew a fuse.

Write down a list of things that recharge you and categorize them by time needed. Then, when you have a little time just pick an activity of an appropriate time or . . . better yet . . . purposely plan these breaks throughout the day/week.

Give yourself a night off from cooking and then spend that time . . . maybe even just once a month . . . on YOU

As mentioned earlier, make it really easy for them to take care of dinner. Have a crock pot meal planned so they can handle it with ease if they aren’t . . . we’ll be nice and say adept . . . in the kitchen.

For a little while I was an expert at post-explosion guilt. It didn’t take me long to figure out what the problem was and how to handle it.

But at that time it wasn’t as widely accepted as it is now.

It is so worth it to put in a little time planning in order to have an evening—or even part of one—by yourself. Not only that but you give yourself something to look forward to.

Make Time for Yourself
Make Time for Yourself

This is a perfect example of how I would make it easy for them to feed themselves. When I was making meatballs I went ahead and made some stuffed bell peppers (with leftover spaghetti sauce and some sauerkraut that needed to be used. We ate 4 that evening and put the other 4 up for a future meal.

Life Application For Making Time for Yourself

Get the kids and spouse to help with household tasks and give yourself a 30 minute breather

Make your list of things you want to do: read uninterrupted, take a bath with no baby toys in sight (much less floating around), take a walk by yourself at sunset, walk on the beach, etc.

Consider this as necessary as driving to work or taking a shower. Those times (driving and showering) MUST be spent so you don’t question it. Making time for yourself should be just as important.

The spouse and kids can help with something in order to free up some time for you.

Realize that it’s easier to do one of these than to rid yourself of the guilt caused by blowing your fuse

We find time for what we feel is most important. Now, I know that some days—and even weeks—are very hectic, but your life . . . in general . . . should have some free time built in to it.

If you can’t manage a few minutes each day, you can certainly manage some free time weekly with careful planning.

Give yourself a night off from cooking and then spend that time . . . maybe even just once a month . . . on YOU

If you’re the one who cooks then do as I’ve suggested several times and purposely plan to give yourself a night off this coming week.

This is a sure-fire way of creating that time. I do this on a pretty regular basis.

stressor #9 making time for yourself
Stressor #9: Making Time for Yourself

This has been an excerpt of my book Focus on Feeling Blessed Not Stressed: A Busy Woman’s Guide to Home Time Management.

If you want more excerpts simply go to the main page titled Focus on Feeling Blessed and on that page you’ll find a list of links to more excerpts as I post them or just go ahead and buy my book on Amazon.

Also know that I’m available to come speak to your church or women’s group. Please check out my Speaker page which will give you all the info you need as well as links to some videos of me speaking.

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