by Mary Segers

Stressor #8: Making Time for Family and Friends

How/Why It Stresses You

We are social by nature . . . some more than others

I am not, never have been, and never will be an overly social person, but I understand some are.

Family traditions build strong families

Many consider my family to be exceptionally close. We have monthly family dinners and monthly girls’ lunch out. I’ve had to miss surprisingly few of them all through college and graduate school because I was willing to put aside my studies in favor of spending time with family.

Friends help us keep the right perspective

Sometimes a friend can help you see when you need a break if you’re a workaholic like me.

Solutions to Making Time for Family and Friends

Schedule family and friend time into your life

Sometimes the only way you can fit this in is for it to be scheduled.

Multitask with Bible study or exercise or grocery shopping or running errands or meal times

I’ve done all of the above. It’s amazing what you can turn into a social activity. I’ve actually went walking with class-mates and turned it into a study session using homemade flash cards.

If they are the stressors you may need to limit drop-ins, drop some friends, or at least distance yourself

I had to do this in college. I had a friend who didn’t really understand my need to spend so much time studying. She thought that I should just be able to put it aside and get to it when I “wanted to.”

She constantly made me feel bad so I had to distance myself from her until I finished my education.

Making Time for Family and Friends Life Application

Schedule family/friend time into your life

If you know you’re a social creature and need that interaction you may as well go ahead and schedule it so you’re not feeling deprived.

Remember, we have time for what we make time for. I always make sure to be available for the family dinners and girls’ lunch out.

Multitask with Bible study or exercise or grocery shopping or running errands or meal times

Figure out how you can do double duty. I walk with a friend and we talk about deep spiritual issues.

If they are the stressors you may need to limit drop-ins, drop some friends, or at least distance yourself

If someone is a drain on your life then you really need to pull the plug so to speak.

Stressor #8: Making Time for Family and Friends
Stressor #8: Making Time for Family and Friends

This has been an excerpt from my book Focus on Feeling Blessed Not Stressed: A Busy Woman’s Guide to Home Time Management.

If you want more excerpts simply go to the main page titled Focus on Feeling Blessed and on that page you’ll find a list of links to more excerpts as I post them or just go ahead and buy my book on Amazon.

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