by Mary Segers

Stressor #6: Finding Time to Nurture Your Marriage

How/Why It Stresses You

There are not many things as stressful as a dying marriage

It’s impossible to focus on feeling blessed when you have a dying marriage. On the flip side, there aren’t many things as comforting as a good solid relationship.

What isn’t nurtured dies . . . Period

I was in a relationship for 13 very long years where no effort was made to nurture it. It was dead long before I officially buried it.

Much of our identity is wrapped up in our union

This is the way God designed it. After all, you two become one. Unfortunately, this is true for good and bad relationships.

If you are going to learn to focus on feeling blessed then you need to actually feel like your marriage is a blessing.

Finding Time to Nurture Your Marriage Solutions

Plan time each and every day/week for nurturing your marriage

We have time for what we make time for. What we make time for tells everyone what we find valuable in life. For instance, if you only make time to watch the games on TV then you’re telling everyone around you what you value.

If you actually make time for your marriage you may find it becomes more valuable to you

You can free up time to invest in this most important relationship which is second only to a relationship with God himself.

Work life around that planned time

If you could think of something like the Super Bowl game around which you schedule life, you’ll see what I’m saying here. I know of people who take off of work, they’re thinking about it for months in advance, they treat it like a party. In short, they celebrate it.

Consider time with your spouse as important and you’ll have the best marriage of anyone you know.

Don’t let anything else take up that time

When you’ve decided to put your marriage first I promise you there will be all kinds of things “popping up” and trying to take over that time you’ve set aside. Don’t let it.

Nurturing Your Marriage: Life Applications

Plan time each and every day/week for nurturing your marriage

Purposely plan time for your spouse. Do whatever you have the time/inclination to do. Walk on the beach, watch a sunset, take a walk. Just do something together. You could even take turns doing what the other wants.

Work life around that planned time

Plan meals, household running, and meals around this time dedicated to your spousal time together. Use leftovers for dinner and have the kids feed themselves.

Don’t let anything else take up that time

Don’t let anything mess up your plans. Turn your phone off and don’t check email.

I don’t think it would be very long before you’re able to focus on feeling blessed instead of stressed.

Stressor #6 Finding Time to Nurture Your Marriage
Stressor #6 Finding Time to Nurture Your Marriage

This has been an excerpt of my book Focus on Feeling Blessed Not Stressed: A Busy Woman’s Guide to Home Time Management.

If you want more excerpts simply go to the main page titled Focus on Feeling Blessed and on that page you’ll find a list of links to more excerpts as I post them or just go ahead and buy my book on Amazon.

Also know that I’m available to come speak to your church or women’s group. Please check out my Speaker page which will give you all the info you need as well as links to some videos of me speaking.

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